AVOIDING BAD HABITS

Hello,

Do you know that the most common bad habit is telling lies?

It is not murder, rape or robbery. Yes it may not be as heinous as murder or rape and it may not be bad as taking away things that do not belong to you. But it is the most widespread and grows rapidly.

Getting into this habit is as easy as slipping into a cloak two sizes too big.
Imagine coming late for office and meeting the boss at the door. Can we say we got up late and regret the delay or will we lie about an imaginary traffic jam or punctured wheel and try to sneak through the small gate the lie offers?

Most of us have surely gone in for the second option.

Harmless lie we tell ourselves.

Does not hurt anyone and we get away from a situation where the truth would have either made us a butt of office jokes or allowed the boss to pass some ugly remarks on our unprofessional attitude.

Just like the cloak, a lie conceals the flaws temporarily but again just like it, it also puts unnecessary burden on our shoulder.

Now imagine a similar scene with minor changes. We are late for an appointment and we lie about the reason for the delay. This time we are accompanied by our kid whom we have been coaching on the importance of telling the truth.

Unwittingly we have spread the habit. The child now picks it up from us. If telling lies works for the parent it will surely work for the child.

We say it is fine if the lies are harmless, but we are planting a seed that can grow into a tree. Are we ready to live under the shade of a tree full of thorns?

I'm sure the answer is no.

Cutting this habit is easy. Do we know how?

Best regards,
Manoj

AVOID NEGATIVE ACTION

Hello,

Negative action will not happen if you conquer the tempation of using negative words and nip any growth of negative thoughts.

But the basic problem with humans is that we are sometimes controlled by external factors that makes us do things that is against our nature and wish.

So, what do we do when tempted into negative action? How do we avoid negative action?

If you have failed in your effort with negative words and thoughts, the chances of your ability to resist negative action has already gone down to maybe 25%.

But you still have a chance. You can still curb the desire for negative action through a mechanism called retardation.

When negative thoughts dominate your thoughts, it gives momentum and acceleration to your action.

If even at this juncture you want to avoid negativity all you have to do is press on the brakes. Slow down the action. Let the action simmer, let friction take effect. Delay it as much as you can.

How to delay?

Move away from the scene.

If you are having an arguement just get out of the room, drink a glass of water and if you are brave enough just go and hug the other person.

It works. The retardation produced kills the momentum and brings the vehicle to a stop.

Try it and soon it will become a habit you can be proud of.

Best regards,
Manoj

AVOIDING NEGATIVITY - BANISHING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

Hello,

In my last post I had written about the impact of negative words and how we can avoid using them.

However, it is not always possible to be on guard and therefore even after our best effort we do end up using the words that create fear and apprehension.

In my earlier posts on positive thinking I had spoken about my personal example of how my heart would start palpitating if the phone rang at work. I always connected the ringing of the phone bell with negative words like 'angry boss', 'irrate customer', 'problems'.

As expected my words got converted into thoughts and my heart started to beat faster givng me unwanted tension.

These thoughts were so strong that several times I had to deal with an angry boss, an irrate customer or unexpected problems.

When I think of those times now I realize that I would almost always get what I was looking for.

As I wrote earlier I got over the problem by trying to avoid picking up the phone from the boss, going up to their cabin and reading their thoughts on their faces. I tried to manage the irrate customer by being polite and civil. It has worked and now I no longer fear the telephone. The negative words associated with the telephone ring is no longer in use and therefore the negative thoughts that dominated my thinking at the ringing are no longer dominant.

Negative thoughts have a very strong growth pattern. Once such a thought enters your mind it begins to dwarf all others and slowly but surely it leads you to a stage of depression where everything looks negative and everyone appears to be an enemy.

But if you stop these negative thoughts from growing by countering their growth, nipping them at the bud with positive action or words it does not grow into a monster and you are back on track.

So everytime a negative thought starts gnawing your brains, focus on the positive aspects of the word that gives rise to the thought. Focus on the action related to the word that brought in positive results and you can banish this negative thought from your mind.

Make a conscious effort to safeguard your subconscious.

Think Positive.

Best regards,

Manoj

Avoiding Negativity – Use of Negative words

Hello,

Avoiding Negativity – Use of Negative words

Most of us realize the importance of positive thinking but small issues that impede our effort towards building this attitude has escaped our attention.

It is also obvious to us that any negative attitude starts with use of negative words.

Avoiding the use of negative words is the first step that helps us avoid negative thoughts entering our subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind stores images and feelings. It does not value words. Therefore sentences like “do not clutter your room” or “do not drink the whiskey” get translated into exactly the opposite.

By using any word that says “not” we create a barrier between ourselves and success.

When we use “cannot” or “can’t”, you are already destined for failure.

When you replace it with “give it a try” or “I’ll try” the obstacles get smaller and you see the opening.

You can move closer to the goal by saying “I will”, as the road then appears clear and then when you start using “I am” you are saying that the goal is yours and then you have set in motion your thoughts that will lead you to success.

One example of the effect of negative words can be seen in people who blink when pictures are taken. Every time they pose for the camera they keep repeating to themselves that they will not blink. The power of suggestion then works its magic and we find them with closed eyes in every picture they have posed for.

The same people have their eyes wide open when they are not conscious of the camera.

The first step towards avoiding negativity is the usage of positive words.
“I will smile into the camera with a twinkle in my eyes”

Best regards,

Manoj